Learning From our Kids’ Adventurous Choices
Earlier today I had the privilege of watching my daughter perform in her school variety show. She’s sang a song by one of here favorite artists that she chose herself. She even performed it A Capella. She signed up for the show without debate; just decided she wanted to do it. She’d never sang in public before. She’d never really performed anything in front of people before.
However, in front of over 1,000 people today, she stepped out onto a stage, took a microphone in hand, and took on a very difficult challenge. She could have failed–could have locked up with stage fright and not uttered a word. But she didn’t. When the curtains parted, she looked out on over 800 of her fellow sixth grade students, took a breath, and sang for them for three whole minutes. She did fantastic, and I couldn’t be more proud of my little girl! (In truth, she’s almost 5’10” at 12 years old–so she’s not really that little.)
I’m so proud of how she’s just stepping out on this adventure on her own. She didn’t carry any preconceived notions about what it would be like nor did she question her ability to do it. As adults, we can learn a lot from this. Through the years, we let our failures jade us and ultimately, steer us away from taking risks. Our subconscious wants to keep us “safe” and makes us nervous, scared, and reluctant to take on adventures like we did as a kid.
we all know that failure is a natural process in getting to success for ourselves. However, our cautious attitudes that we’ve learned and nurtured over time keep us from even getting to a failure. If that’s a necessary step to success, then how can we ever achieve our dreams?
I’m reminded of a quote from a book I’m reading right now, The Hammer of God, a 1993 Sci-Fi by Arthur C. Clarke. “The element of risk was what distinguished Reality from its imitations, however perfect. And the willingness to take risks—indeed, to welcome them, if they were reasonable—was what gave zest to life and made it worthwhile.” In the book, virtual reality systems are prevalent and your mind can experience anything through them. However, there’s no risk involved, because the experience isn’t real.
So, let’s all learn from our kids’ attitudes and start taking risks again, shall we? Start small, and make conscious choices to push yourself to endeavors that you may fail in. Only then will we truly set our feet on a path to success.